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Friday, June 27, 2008

Signing off

It's 11PM here and I am gonna leave you for now. I'll be back tomorrow to check your updates. It'll be late though as general cleaning is on schedule. Plus I will be rechecking Dannielle's stuff as well as mine to make sure everything is put up together when the day comes.

Were you able to grab some?

There were actually bunch of job opportunities released tonight. I couldn't get those high paid opps as this blog is PR0 (lol). All the available opps for me worth just $5 each. WEll, its better than nothing. At least I have my earnings for tonight coz I completed the allowable entries on this blog.

It's time-out kiddo!

I noticed here that when kids get real bad, parents would just say "time-out" and this makes him or her cry. Hmnn...this is actually new to me. In the Philippines, it's way too different. It's so simple for parents to whip or spank their children as a punishment.

I read this article on MSN.

How to make "timeouts" less like bar fights
By Alan E. Kazdin

The "timeout" has replaced the swat on the behind as many parents' default punishment for a misbehaving child. It's worth noting, then, that this parenting tool is widely misunderstood and frequently misused.

Most parents already have a rough working notion of how to use timeouts. When a child does something wrong, you send him off to sit somewhere by himself and do nothing for a set amount of time, like a hockey referee putting a player in the penalty box. Two minutes on a bench for hitting at the playground, five minutes on a stool in the corner for talking back, and so on. Because the timeout seems so simple, most people feel comfortable using it intuitively, guided by assumptions that the punishment should fit the crime, that a timeout gives the child an opportunity to reflect and repent, and that it teaches the child who's in control.

These assumptions lead many parents to use more and longer timeouts to match the frequency and severity of a child's offenses. If a child gets five minutes for, say, hitting a sibling, then a more serious offense, such as biting, should rate 15 or 30 minutes, right? Not necessarily. Using more and longer timeouts might seem proportional, and it might even conceivably teach a lesson about justice, but it won't help change the behavior that's causing you to give timeouts in the first place. And if you don't change the behavior, you're going to be enforcing a lot more timeouts. Read full article here...

Thursday, June 26, 2008

Latest = Bago = Bag-o


Hubby took this picture last night while I was resting after browsing the internet. I am his all-time-model (lol). Not so fond of taking pictures of myself now as I really look like a mess. My face or nose is wider than it used to be. Even my neck looks so dark. As you can see, my tummy looks so ahhhhh...great? hahaha...hope so!

Anyway, it won't be that long and I would be able to see the real LIRA again.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Shake it baby!



I failed to follow my diet. The reason is that I saw this avocado grinning at me while we we're having our grocery shopping. Couldn't resist it's charm and so I grabbed it. When we came back home, I hurriedly prepared to make myself a glass of avocado shake. Ahhhh...that was tasty! I missed avocado so much! My doctor has no idea about me being stubborn (lol). Sorry Doc, it's a call.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

More free formula



It's nice to be pregnant here in the United States. You are getting free samples of baby products which you haven't asked from companies or manufacturers. This in not the first time I received cans of formulas. I got 3 cans each from others as well. Not only that, I also have gift checks which are really helpful in case I can't breastfeed. It would lessen the price we're paying. A can of a small formula costs like nearly $15-20. That's so expensive!

Thanks Similac!

Wazzup Doc?


Last Friday we had our weekly check-up again. I didn't feel like going as I don't want to be checked again if I am dilated or not. It was real painful and I hate it. The doctor really apologized the first time he did it. I know it's part of the test but it was really hurting. I can't wait to get over this.

Anyway, my second test was a lot more lighter for me. I was overjoyed as he skipped checking my (you know). The doctor just checked my baby's heartbeat and measured my tummy. As usual, it was fine and couldn't have any better than that according to him.

"The picture was taken by Chad before the test. He's my avid photographer and would take every single shot of me. Crazy man (lol)."

Travel to seven continents

Tagged from Virgie. Thanks a lot Ghie.

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A. Asia : 1. Moms... Check Nyo (Philippines) 2. Aeirin's Collections (Philippines) 3. Jenny and Belle(Philippines) 4. Hailey's Beats and Bits (Philippines) 5. Appleofmyeyes(Saudi Arabia) 6. Deranged Insanity (Philippines) 7. your turn



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Tagging along : anneberly, chechay, cheerful, jana, jena, lisa, Mye and poray's porangag.

Monday, June 23, 2008

Spark friends tag

Tagged by Mommy liza. Thanks so much dear mommy! This is just a great one. It makes me reminisce my friends, I meant close friends in the Philippines.







Friends are easy to find but real friends are not. I have so many friends but only a couple of them whom I trusted the most. Trust it to be gained as they say and have proven it from what they showed me.

I found friends in the blogosphere. So I am tagging you for making the blogging world go round. This is for em, gigi, jamie, del and Jackie's Everyday life.

Affordable customized Logos

Logos are meant to attract each one's eyes. Therefore, it should be creative, colorful and meaningful. I have seen different styles of logos around the corner. Some were created as if you can't get your eyes off it. Others would make you drag your eyes away from it so quickly.

There are stores which sell logos but the variety of styles are limited and the way it was made is so poor. And yes, you may see some logo makers out there but they priced so high which is very inappropriate.

If you are looking for affordable but made of high quality materials logos, don't waste your time by searching online or roaming around your place. There is an e-store which can deliver you the logos you need. 9DollarLogos.com is the website to go. Just sit and face your computer and simply log on to www.9dollarlogos.com and browse the website for a wide variety of designs. Their logos are very affordable for the price of $9 each. Very cheap compared to what others have. Though it's cheap, they don't make low quality logos, 9 Dollar Logo makes only High Quality Logos to satisfy you or their customers. Besides that, if you are not satisfied with the designs they have, you can customize your own logos.

At 9 Dollar Logo, you can be sure of the following :
1. Quality Logos
2. Inexpensively Priced Logos
3. Speedy Logo Service
These three elements have made this company so successful over the years.

I really find this so cool! Customers can never get this offer and services from the other logo makers. Only 9 Dollar Logos can.

Give this website a try! Enjoy browsing and customizing your own logos.

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Caesarean Sections may Increased Risk Of Asthma In Child - study

This is what I am afraid of if ever CS would be recommended by my OB. I really want to have a natural delivery, I hope. CS has a lot more complications compared to a normal delivery.

To give you an idea about it, I have searched for an info for my readers. A study was conducted and here's the article...

Babies born by Caesarean section have a 50 % increased risk of developing asthma compared to babies born naturally. Emergency Caesarean sections increase the risk even further. This is shown in a new study based on data from 1.7 million births registered at the Medical Birth Registry at the Norwegian Institute of Public Health.

The goal of the study was to investigate the possible link between being born by Caesarean section and later development of asthma.

Summarised results from the study:

  • Compared to children born in the natural way (i.e. spontaneously and vaginally), children born by Caesarean section had an approximately 50 % increased risk of developing asthma.
  • Children born vaginally, but with assistance from vacuum or forceps, had a 20 % increased risk of asthma.
  • For children born between 1988 and 1998, planned Caesarean section was associated with an approximately 40 % increased risk of asthma while emergency Caesarean section was associated with a 60 % increased risk. Read full article here...

Expectant moms, due date for deliveries to avoid newborn complications

Here in the United States, force labor is somehow common. I find it cool actually but it's risky for both moms and babies.

Anyways, Ive read something online and it's best if it's shared to moms like you and for those who are planning to conceive. Here's an excerpt from the article.

Many parents become anxious toward the end of a pregnancy, when women are sleepless, fatigued and finding it difficult to perform their daily activities. Technology during the past 10 years has made labor induction easier and more successful, and now, more than ever before, deliveries are planned during the last few weeks of pregnancies.

But studies are showing that a delivery even two weeks early can be associated with newborn complications, according to Dr. Celeste Durnwald, a maternal-fetal medicine specialist at The Ohio State University Medical Center.

“There is still ongoing development and maturation of the fetus, even in those last few weeks,” notes Durnwald. The consequences of being born early include problems such as jaundice, poor feeding, inability to sit in a car seat without breathing difficulties and, rarely, premature lungs. Read full article here...

Friday, June 20, 2008

The Flame of friendship

Mommy Vannie shared this wonderful meme. Thanks so much dear! Im glad I am doing this entry! My friends matter to me. By the way, this poem is real awesome! It reminds me of the friends I have way back home. Also, my new found friends in the blogosphere. I enjoy being with you guys. Wishing for a lasting friendship!



The Flame of Friendship.
A symbol of spirit of unity.
The burning icon of love.
Undying picture of hope.
The hot symbol of oneness.
The Flame of Friendship.
And now it's your turn to flame yourself!
Meet new friends.
Discover friendship.
Make bonds.And now it’s your turn to flame yourself!
Meet new friends. Discover friendship. Make bonds.
Copy this post starting from the PICTURE ABOVE to the end
and add your blog on the list below.
Let’s start FLAMING!

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The People Who Accepted The Flame of Friendship
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Hailey's Beats and Bits
Fun|Fierce|Fabulous
Me, Myself + 2
Confessions of a Supermodel Wannabe
Tasteful Voyage
Filipino love stories
A Mom's Note



(now, you follow!)
OOOPSS!! Don’t forget to invite your friends!

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Please keep the flame burning: cheerful, del, em, gracey, jamie, jana, johnluz, liza and UmmiRosma. Have fun girls!

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Not all baby bottles are safe for use

Now I know that not all baby bottles that are sold in stores are safe for our babies. I thought baby bottle companies or manufacturers are keen enough about the effects of this chemical.

Breastmilk is still the best, still! Glad I chose to do it.

Here's an excerpt from the article...

Four parents have filed a federal lawsuit against makers of baby bottles, claiming the bottles were made from a harmful chemical that sparked congressional hearings and prompted the world's largest retailer to phase out the products.

The complaint filed last week in US District Court alleges the companies knew that a chemical known as bisphenol A was associated with health problems but didn't disclose the risk. It cites scientific studies that conclude BPA, as the chemical is also known, seeps from bottles and sippy-cups into liquid. Read full story here...

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Eating brown rice is better than polished rice

I am a rice-eater but I am way to choosy of the kind of rice I eat. It should be polished rice.

But are we aware of the benefits we get from eating brown rice? If not, here are the reasons why brown rice is most recommended :

1. Rice bran contains Vitamin E, which lowers excess fat and cholesterol and provides anti-tumor protection.

2. Gamma-oryzanol, an antioxidant found only in rice bran, strengthens the musculature of the body while converting fat to lean body mass. It improves blood circulation to the extremities, overcomes clots and blood stagnation, and improves hormonal balance by regulating pituitary secretions.

3. Alpha-lipoic acid, another antioxidant, promotes liver restoration, slows the aging process and converts glucose to energy.

4. Glutathione peroxidase is an antioxidant enzyme that reduces mucus excesses, boosts respiratory function, and helps detoxify the body. Known to counteract the effects of aging, it’s also used in the treatment of alcoholic cirrhosis, rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, acne and asthma.

5. Superoxide dismutase, an antioxidant enzyme, treats cataracts, arthritis and many symptoms of premature aging.

6. Proanthcyanidins facilitate wound healing, strengthen arteries, veins and capillaries, and improve blood circulation.

7. IP6 (inositol hexaphosphate) is beneficial in cancer therapy. It’s also used in the treatment of cardiovascular disease, kidney stones, and may be useful against immune-system disorders like AIDS.source

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Even granny gets STD


So you think it's just for the young ones? Nope! It's shocking huh? But this is reality. Grannies are human as well with needs.

Read this article folks!


Though statistics on the sexual habits of older women are scarce, data collected by researchers at the University of Michigan School of Public Health shows that among women ages 60 to 94, 34 percent of married women and 4 percent of non-married women report having had sexual activity in the past three months.

So why should we care what the older set is doing in its romantic life? These activities have made some unsuspecting women more susceptible to getting an STD—especially HIV, the precursor to AIDS.

“Lots of times the assumption is that women in older age groups aren’t sexually active, or that they are in a stable long-term partnership with lower risk,” says Dr. Divya Patel, the study’s lead author and a researcher in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Michigan. “In the past, you didn’t consider people who are 70 or 80 having sex. Now more couples are able to have intercourse over a longer period of time, due to drugs like Viagra and Cialis, so sexuality is extended into later parts of life, or in some couples it has returned. The main thing to note is that women in the older age group do engage in these behaviors that increase their risk of STDs.”

In fact, in 2005, 15 percent of all new HIV diagnosis was among men and women over the age of 50, according to data collected by the Centers for Disease Control. (The data does not differentiate between genders.) The CDC suggests that the number of older people newly diagnosed with HIV has stabilized—but data collected from small pockets of research around the country suggest the opposite.

“When you speak specifically about older people, there are a couple of problems with interpreting the data,” says Dr. Aletha Akers, assistant professor of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive sciences at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine. “We don’t have detailed or accurate statistics for the older population—a lot of data just isn’t there. But of the data that is available through the Centers for Disease Control, it appears that HIV rates among older people are stable. There have been some specific cities and counties around the country that have more detailed statistics that show HIV rates among their older population is rising.”

Data are limited about other STDs in the older population since STD testing is not routinely performed. “[Older women] do get other STDs, but in a much smaller proportion compared to other age groups,” says Akers. Statistics show small but noteworthy numbers for STDs such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis and HPV in women in their 40s and 50s, says Akers.

This is happening for myriad reasons. “It is biological, it is cultural, and it is social and health services-related,” says Patel. To be sure, more older people have HIV today because people are living longer and we know much more about effective treatment. However, several variables unique to the older set reentering the dating pool, whether through divorce or death of a partner, place them at risk.

What’s comfortable culturally for an older woman may not encourage her to make choices that will help her avoid an STD. “Many older women become sexually active with a new partner later in life,” says Patel. They may have been with the same partner for decades, and circumstances are different than they once were. Sex is more of a taboo topic, and older women are typically less educated about today’s sexual risks. “A lot the HIV and STD awareness has been targeted to younger groups, so they didn’t get that in school, or from their doctors,” says Patel.

Older women are less likely to have “the talk” with a new sex partner, and they’re less likely to use a condom. “After women go through menopause, childbearing is no longer an issue and they are less likely to use barrier methods like condoms,” says Patel.

What’s more, older women may be more susceptible to getting an STD because of physical changes that come with age. “After menopause, there is a natural thinning of the vaginal wall,” says Patel. “There’s also reduced lubrication for intercourse, so both those things in combination can cause a higher risk of tearing during intercourse.” Small tears that happen during vaginal intercourse are a common way for STDs to enter a person’s body.

Once an older woman has an STD, it is harder to detect and manage. STD symptoms may often be confused with the normal aches and pains that go along with aging, and are more likely to stick around in an older person with a weakened immune system. “There is an age-related decline in immune function that occurs naturally,” Patel says. “Older women who have a decreased immune function are likely to have more persistent infections which may lead to more serious consequences.”

The takeaway from this data is that grandmas reentering the dating pool can go ahead and have some fun. The key is to practice safe sex and stay informed.

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Blogging website for moms

I will be a mom in three weeks time if nothing would happen beyond that. Blogging has been part of my routine but not as exciting since I have a baby on the way. I actually created a new blog solely for parenting and about my baby Dannielle. Being an expectant mom makes me think of a lot of stuff. Motherly things in particular. There are these tips or guides on how to take care of my baby and or share everything about her. In a shorter means, updating my family and friends around.

There is this website which is solely for moms who blogs. On this website, we can create our own blog account and then our own entries or posts for other moms to read. Here we can update our friends , family and the world about our experiences with our children such as pictures and their developments. Share our ideas about parenting which is very much in need especially for a newbie like me who is still seeking for a broader information on how to raise a child and so on and so forth. What I love about this website is that if you have this interesting posts or very helpful entries, it will be featured on the the "top posts" where it would be more easy for other moms to access and visit your blogs. But before a certain post to be included as one of the top, of course, it has to pass through voting. These votes would determine on how valuable your topic is. This is a great and unique Mother community.

This website caught my interest and made me sign up for my own account. I am gonna try to browse later to learn more. Navigating is so easy.

I am inviting my fellow bloggers especially moms, to come and join this community...a community for us alone. Let's share what we have.

Best things of parenthood

I am not a parent yet and I am excited to be one. Few weeks from now, me any husband will have our first born. A start for us to be parents. We will be experiencing the best things other parents had/have.


by Jill Jasper

Childbirth

Okay, maybe "pleasure" is the wrong word to describe childbirth; labor and delivery are scary, even if mom opts for the epidural and dad stays in the waiting room. But going through what seems a geometric improbability—fit large oblong object through very, very, very narrow space—endows you with a newfound respect for human life. It is, indeed, a miracle. After all, the female body accomplishes what even the best business minds rarely can: conceive of and launch a new product in just nine months. No R&D budget, PowerPoint presentation or marketing plan required.

First Time Out of the House
Having swaddled your baby like a sausage, covered her soft spot with two pink-and-blue hospital caps, strapped her into the portable "bucket," belted the bucket onto a stroller, looked both ways five times before crossing the street, and walking 1 mph around the neighborhood in 72-degree weather, you return home knowing that you and your child survived the great outdoors without breaking or catching pneumonia. This may seem like a minor achievement, but after this journey your confidence soars. From this point on, anything is possible!

Potty Training
Yes! It's amazing how excited you can get over poop and pee. Fear that your child will graduate from size 6 Cruisers to Depends, instead of underpants, no longer keeps you up at night. In addition to the sense of newfound independence you both feel, there's nothing quite like watching your 3-year-old sit on the toilet as you secretly calculate the money you'll save not buying diapers. Compounded over 15 years, it could pay for his freshman year at college.

Family Meals
As a parent, you rediscover the four main food groups and learn to cook instead of dial for dinner. Better yet, you actually sit down to eat and talk with your family. You'll find out what your kids learned at school. You'll hear their views on current events. Maybe you'll just laugh together. Not every meal will be so satisfying, but sharing mealtime with your family has a way of putting life into perspective, one day at a time.

Playtime
Parenthood is like a time machine. From Candyland to hide-and-seek, patty-cake to reading The Cat in the Hat, playing with your kids awakens memories and senses long forgotten. Every time you build with Legos, dress-up like a princess, re-read Ping, or watch The Wizard of Oz, you'll rediscover a kind of creative, imaginary fun that adulthood rarely accommodates. It can be difficult to exit work time and enter playtime—and trying to forget about office deadlines and pressures—but once you free your mind, you'll live in and enjoy the moment.

Hugs and Kisses
A peck on the cheek at bedtime. A full-body squeeze before you head out to work. Hugs and kisses from your kids are shots of adrenaline, caffeine, and sugar all at once. Shows of affection may get fewer and farther between as children grow older, but each one of them is a natural high.

Seeing Yourself in Your Child
Your daughter inherits your sense of humor and your spouse's corkscrew curls. Even better, she does not inherit your inability to add fractions or your husband's dance moves. Observing the physical and personality traits that manifest themselves in your children—and those that, thankfully, do not—is one of the most gratifying parts of watching your children evolve.

Discovering New Hobbies
Kids introduce us to things we never thought we'd be remotely interested in. Before having my son, I was completely unfamiliar with construction equipment. Now, I can spot a Caterpillar backhoe loader from 500 feet away while driving 60 mph—and I get excited about it! If you hate sports, expect your son to be on the basketball team. If you're tone deaf, don't be surprised if your daughter plays the lead in the school musical. Inevitably they expand our world, making it a more interesting place.

Reliving First Love … and First Heartbreak
When your children fall in love for the first time, you'll briefly long for the giddy, adolescent feeling of the head-to-toe crush, followed by the fireworks of a first kiss—and all those other firsts. But then, you'll watch as they wait for a phone call, a second date, an invite to the prom that never comes. Your heart breaks for your son or daughter, but you're grateful that you never have to feel that particular brand of teenage pain again. First loves are best relived vicariously.

Graduation Days
Whether it's kindergarten, elementary school, high school, college, or beyond, the day your children formally pass from one educational level to another is thrilling, and almost as relieving as potty training. Your deepest fears that they "won't make it" are replaced by overwhelming excitement for their future and pride at the hard work you both put into past education, from their ABCs to their Ph.D.s.

Rediscovering Your Spouse
You think you know your significant other, but having a child casts your partner in a whole new light—not just as a spouse, a lover, or a friend, but as a mother or a father. You'll smile as your partner wrestles with your son, teaches your daughter to drive, or explains why we don't poke the cat. Watching my husband be a dad—patient and silly, gentle and engaged—makes me love him even more. source

Monday, June 16, 2008

How to be a better dad? read this

Being a dad is not a simple job. You are the breadwinner and also taking care of your children. When I found this article, I then let my husband read it. He was actually laughing as I sent it thru email even though were living in the same house.

1. Respect Your Children's Mother
If you are married, keep your marriage strong and vital. If you're not married, it is still important to respect and support the mother of your children. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are also more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.
2. Spend Time with Your Children
How a father spends his time tells his children what's important to him. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected, no matter what you say. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is essential to spend time with your children.

3. Earn the Right to Be Heard
All too often, the only time a father speaks to his children is when they have done something wrong. Begin talking with your kids when they are young, so that difficult subjects will be easier to handle as they get older. Take time and listen to their ideas and problems.

4. Discipline with Love
All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior. Fathers who discipline in a calm and fair manner show love for their children.
5. Be a Role Model
Fathers are role models to their kids, whether they realize it or not. A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be respected by boys. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility and responsibility.

6. Be a Teacher
Too many fathers think teaching is something others do. But a father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices. Involved fathers use everyday examples to help their children learn the basic lessons of life.

7. Eat Together as a Family
Sharing a meal together can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and want to do. It is also a good time for fathers to listen and give advice.

8. Read to Your Children
Children learn best by doing and reading, as well as seeing and hearing. Begin reading to your children when they are very young. When they are older, encourage them to read on their own. Instilling your children with a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure they will have a lifetime of personal and career growth.

9. Show Affection
Children need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted and loved by their family. Parents need to feel both comfortable and willing to hug their children. Showing affection every day is the best way to let your children know that you love them.

10. Realize That a Father's Job Is Never Done
Even after children are grown and ready to leave home, they will still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Fathers continue to play an essential part in the lives of their children as they grow and, perhaps, marry and build their own families.

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Worst things about parenthood

Parenting is not always as joyful as it is. We deal with children and these kids have uncontrolled behaviors that can't be simply eliminated. We have to be extra patient to be good parents.

Read the following for your reference.
by Kristopher Kaiyala

Philosophical Acquiescence
Having kids won't change my life, you tell yourself. But somewhere between finding out you're expecting, picking out items for the baby registry ("Why is everything plaid?"), and testing the sometimes turbulent-looking waters of the parenting universe, an inevitability to your new life creeps in: You are a parent, and while life is still great and that little bundle of joy really will make you a drooling, sentimental mess, nothing—not your living space, your free time, nor your personal decisions—will ever be the same. At times you'll honestly wonder: What have I gotten myself into?

Sleep Deprivation
Nothing can prepare you for those first few months (or in some cases years) of waking up every couple hours to change a diaper, prepare a bottle, or walk around the living room in a daze hoping the kid you're cradling will finally call it a night. (They probably will around dawn.) Nursing mothers obviously bear the brunt of this, but dads who want to do their part (and to those who don't: Why are you sitting on the sidelines?) feel the effects too. When you're both this tired it affects everything—your social life, your productivity at home and at work, and your ability to communicate amicably. Watch out for that last one.

The Blowout Diaper
Poop. Better get used to it being everywhere—on the furniture, on your clothes, under your nails. And it's staggering how much poop that little human can store up in its body and, without warning, evacuate all at once. Think Mount Vesuvius. The prudent will stock up on extra baby wipes and take them everywhere the baby goes, just for this moment. My wife and I still refer to our seminal diaper-changing moment as "The Costco Parking Lot." We had the car cleaned afterward.

Public Embarrassment
You're there to support your child through good times and bad. But somewhere along the way your kid will trip and fall in full view of hundreds of people at a basketball game, knocking over a vending machine with a loud crash and bring the event to a halt, and you'll want to hide. Guess what? You can't. (And you won't.) Suddenly your parenting skills are on full display, for better or for worse. Good luck.

Mortality
Whether the deceased is a goldfish or a grandparent, managing your child through the death of someone close is one of the toughest and saddest parts of your job. There's not much you can do to stop the tears, so be prepared to ride it out and fumble your way through big questions like, "Why does anything have to die?" If there's a silver lining, it's that kids seem to bounce back faster than adults do, eventually giving you time to grieve—but only after you've helped them get over the loss.

Marriage Issues
Few things can bring out the differences in people like parenting. You may find that your spouse has other ideas when it comes to praise, discipline, routines, homework, housework … just about everything. And those differences usually arise when times get tough. Plus, the constant "hands-on" nature of parenting means a lot less time alone with your partner. Constant communication and mutual understanding are essential; otherwise, get ready for an uncomfortable and unpredictable ride.

Health Issues
Kids are cute—so cute that germs love them. You can disinfect all you want but you're still going to be wiping noses or cleaning up vomit on a regular basis. This malady comes with a side "benefit": because your immune system is feeling the pressure of getting little sleep and being generally more anxious about life, you get sick, too—far more often than you ever remember before having kids. Welcome to the Petri dish.

Routine
Try as you may to avoid it, parenting has a way of sapping the spontaneity from life. Sure, you can still go shopping or hiking on a whim, but that whim may now include packing snacks, making sure each kid has his favorite toy for the car ride, folding the stroller and putting it and the diaper bag in the back of the minivan, checking twice for full water bottles, telling the car's occupants not once but four times to "go to the bathroom before we leave," enduring World War III in the backseat, someone having to go to the bathroom right away, and turning around after two blocks to return home for whatever it is you forgot. Maybe it's best to just stay home and play in the backyard.

Breakdown
There are times you'll feel at your wits' end, and not in some funny way portrayed in a movie or on a sitcom. When something snaps inside, you feel it and the resulting emotions may be confusing or alarming. Worse, you may have no outlet to deal with them because you're the parent and the show must go on. It feels warm and fuzzy to say these trying moments help you grow as a person, but the reality is that sometimes they don't. Sometimes they take the life right out of you.

Trouble child
You get the call at work to come to school for a meeting with the principal. Turns out little Johnny is the school bully and he just punched three kids and a teacher. You saw the tendencies at home, but now your worst fears are true, and in addition to dealing with school administration you have several other parents to answer to. What did you do wrong, and is fixing the problem coming years too late?

Worry
Despite your best efforts to project a calm façade, inside you're wondering if your kids are failing at school, having trouble making friends, hanging out with the wrong crowd, or experimenting in ways that make your skin crawl. As they get older, they spend more time away from you and your protective eyes and arms, and though you try to grant them independence, you dread getting bad news. Suddenly it hits you: You're just like your mom. Somehow that doesn't make you feel any better. source

Sunday, June 15, 2008

My apology for not visiting you

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Lately, I've been so tired of facing my computer. My body pains a lot. My fingers, legs, back and all are soaring. I don't know why but as far as I know, I didn't do anything to feel this way. It must be the pregnancy thing. Can't even take my ring off my finger now. Oh gosh!

Anyway, my apology. I promise to get back to you or visit your blogs in time. I will do it slowly and please bear with me as I have a long list to visit.

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

7 dadly sins

Kid-centrism.

I'll stipulate that the children are important. If one of them needs first aid, prepping that quarterly report on market share in exurbia waits till later. But though the kids are the most important things in your life, they shouldn't be the only important things in your life. It's easy in these kid-obsessed days for a man to hobble his kids by giving them too much attention.

It was probably a mistake for me to sit through every performance of the fourth-grade health pageant at the Riverside School. Sure, a good father might sit through the show twice. But four times? Including the matinee? No, that crossed the line from support to slavishness, and sent, I think, two destructive messages. First, that the fully grown man known as Dad has no other life, and second, that they can't hit their marks without my clapping.

Kids benefit from the role model of a man in full, a guy with a 360-degree life, packed with obligations. Kids need two things: attention and time out of the dad spotlight. An excess of care may build so-called self-esteem, which is useless, at the expense of self-reliance, which is gold.

Yakety-yakosity.

Scenario: A 4-year-old climbs onto Grandma's dining-room table and starts swatting the chandelier. He ignores instructions to get down and, when he's forcibly removed, goes ballistic. Now, here's the point at which I and other good men have gone down a dark dead end: We start explaining. A moment that should be as simple as an adult disciplining a savage turns into a seminar on the purpose of furniture, Nana's love of antiques, the physics of weight-bearing, and yakyakyak, and oh my God, won't somebody just snarl, "Because I said so."

First, it's a waste of breath. Kids' neurons can't listen to reason. A 4-year-old has never replied, "Oh, I see, Dad. Thanks for talking that through with me." Moreover, children don't want you to explain. Try to imagine that you're three feet tall and the six-foot-tall guy who is supposed to be in charge acts as though he needs you to sign on with his decision. Hmmm…does the captain need a nod from the fellas in the engine room? Small children flourish when they have a sense that Dad knows what he's doing. And most important, it offends the universe for a grown man to explain himself to a child, unless--and when this happens, it will be a first--the child instantly complies with instructions and later asks politely why you were so adamant. And yes, they have to use the word adamant.

Ref abuse.

Thou shalt never shout, "Come on, ref, let 'em play." This isn't Tar Heels vs. Hoyas. The kids weigh 44 pounds! Nor, according to their mother, shalt Dad ever stand in the bleachers and make the fist-rolling motion for traveling or the palm-to-the-back-of-the-head signal for an offensive foul on Caitlin.

Objectivity.

Don't be clear-eyed about your team; Dad promotes blind loyalty. We were 8 and 9 years old when my brother and I reported that Kevin had taken the worst of a school-yard fight. When my father inquired as to my whereabouts, and learned that I was among the spectators, he soliloquized that in the future I might not want to stand by and watch my brother take a beating. Sure, he understood the so-called rules that forbade intrusion into a one-on-one. Never mind all that. If an O'Neill is being hammered, another O'Neill rides to the rescue. That's it. Period! No dad worth anything lets his family legend unfurl without promoting unreasonable loyalty. Dad is not objective. He's a zealot.

Pedestalism.

I know at least two praiseworthy fathers--good, tenderhearted men--who missed some of the nectar of family life because their kids admired them too much. They were way up there on a pedestal while Mom and the kids were having fun down in the trenches with the regular people. Nobody doubts that our culture could use more fathers who are much admired. Especially during adolescence, a dad with gravitas keeps kids from flying off into space. But a man has to be careful not to turn into a marble bust looming over a flesh-and-blood family. When you mess up, 'fess up. No, don't admit the depths of your follies, but offer up the shallows of your shortcomings. A self-effacing story, even an apology, is a liberating thing and can make Dad an admirable person rather than a revered icon.

Either/or-itis.

In disciplinary situations, never offer a choice. The moment I yelled, "Untie your sister right now or there's no Nintendo for a week!" I not only betrayed the memory of strong fathers across time, but I also destroyed the next three years of my life. The either/or structure suggested that compliance was merely a cost-benefit analysis, in which my 6-year-old weighed the pleasure of continuing to mistreat his sister against the pain of a few days without his video game. My son knew I wasn't really offering him a choice, but still, the either/or construct implied that my authority derived from control of household electronics rather than from…well, my authority. If a man has any hope of enjoying the first eight to 10 years of being Dad, he'll need a voice that can, when necessary, stop the mayhem in an instant. Either/or nibbles away at that authority.

Mr. Momism.

The trend in parenting is away from gender-specific assignments. These days, Mom is often enough the one who brings home the bacon for Dad to fry it up in a pan. This blurring of parent gender lines is to the good. But raising kids isn't entirely gender neutral. Mom and Dad aren't interchangeable. Mom tends to be more sensitive, more empathetic, better at juggling the details of kid life. Now, I'm not a knuckle-dragger. I understand that plenty of women are grossly insensitive and bad planners while lots of guys are great quarter­masters and good at soothing words. But even an insensitive brute like me can be a solid-gold parent, by sharing his male energy. Sure, this is a vague term, but who can doubt that father zest has something to do with boldness, with exuberance, with giving kids a sense of their robustness, of their own agency in the world. Moms can feature these flavors too. But just as sympathy isn't our home field, barbarism isn't theirs. Dad is better suited to high spirits, to big laughter, to stories about large panthers and rushing rivers. Our culture encourages men to subdue their boyishness, their urgency. Don't do it. Let your Y chromosome inform your stewardship. Lead with a big-picturism that commends the kids to the generosity of the world.

There are a million ways to do fatherhood right. It can be done big and blustery or small and quiet, and maybe best of all, in a calibrated combo. The geniuses are the jazz musicians, the guys who are at home in a slow, smooth groove and on the wings of a wild Sonny Rollins solo. To be the best father he might be, a fella needs pride of gender, a willing heart, and the sense to know that a child needs a good look, for better or worse, at an authentic man. source

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Jessica Alba gives birth


Actress Jessica Alba and her husband Cash Warren welcomed a baby girl into the family on Saturday, June 7. The couple named their first baby together Honor Marie Warren.

Alba, 27, and Warren, 31, first met on the set of "Fantastic Four. They've been dating on and off since 2004 and finally got engaged last December shortly after they confirmed that they're expecting their first child together. They got married in a quiet civil ceremony at a Beverly Hills courthouse on May 19.

Congratulations!

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Monday, June 09, 2008

Angelina Jolie gave birth

Has Angelina Jolie gave birth to twins? Is this for real? Hmn...I don't think so.


It has been reported that the actress has given birth to their twins in France, where the Pitss are currently enjoying their vacation in their home, Miraval Estate villa in the French hamlet of Correns, in the Provence region. Jolie's rep. denied or had corrected the rumors already.

The twins would be the fifth and sixth children for the couple. Their other children are 6-year-old Maddox, 4-year-old Pax, 3-year-old Zahara and 2-year-old Shiloh. A one big happy family.


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Thursday, June 05, 2008

Second Hand Smoke Increases Hospital Admissions For All Types Of Infectious Diseases


Preggy moms, stay away from smoking or individuals who smoke.

Children exposed to second hand tobacco smoke are more likely to get severe infectious diseases and have to be admitted to hospital, finds research published online ahead of print in Tobacco Control.

These children are at greater risk of a whole range of infectious illnesses, such as meningococcal disease, and not just respiratory illness, the results showed. Exposure to smoke in the first few months of life did the most harm, especially if they had a low birth weight or had been born prematurely. Read full article here...

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Daddy's corner



Meet my hubby, Chad. He'll be a daddy soon -- a first time dad. I know his gonna be a great father and our baby will be proud of him. He's just so thoughtful, loving and all.


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Wednesday, June 04, 2008

iWebTrack's Web Analytics Solution

I've been reading a lot about iWebTrack. My readings brought me informations about some facts about the computer and internet thing. I am not a specialist but I have enough understanding with internet. With iWebTrack, I learned about Web Analytics Solution which is very important in the web world.

iWebTrack is the fastest growing web analytics provider in the world. With Web Analytics Solution, Traffic Tracking, web statistics, visitor system information, advertising campaigns, conversion tracking, and graphical statistics are now easy for website owners. Not only hundreds of websites are using their service but more than that...thousands and that's a great achievement already. It only means that iWebtrack tops and trusted with their excellent service. Amongst are customers individual webmasters, small businesses, Universities, Fortune 500 companies, and private-label resellers.

iWebTrack offers their customers with an affordable, effective, and efficient web tracking tool with many features to meet your needs.

Recently, iWebTrack Version 3-Beta has just been launched. They have added more features for a more improved performance which is the improved site and server performance. V-3 is more efficient and effective web analytics tool that offers the same great features as Version 2.0 but with additional help context menus, new features, and more robust reports that are easier to comprehend. There are more features this new version has like email management and SMS/text reporting as well as access statistic reports through AIM.

iWebTrack also entertains. What I mean is that, with iWebTrack™ TOGO, Palm, iPAQ, Blackberry, cell phone or any PDA can be accessible to the internet. Meaning, anywhere you are and whatever time it may be, iWebTrack™ TOGO allows you to access real-times stats.

This is really amazing. I never read anything like this before. It makes me realize the distance traveled by the web world with all the genius creations like what iWebTrack Holdings Inc. has. I know there would be so much more to come in the future and I can't wait to read about it.

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